Three years ago I joined a FB group on aiding feral cats in the Savannah area. One day a woman posted a plea for help, all in CAPITAL LETTERS.
It seemed there was a group of cats living in her neighborhood that had taken up residence around her house. They would hang out on the front yard, the back yard, the sidewalk, under the vehicles, on the front porch, you name it, they were bold.
She pleaded for someone to help her. No one spoke up to help her. So Sugar and I did. She and I started a FB conversation on November 13, 2011.
We drove to her, about an hour’s drive each way, several times. We trapped the cats, and some I released here in my woods at the feeding station. One was young enough, and I found a home for it. We took care of all the expenses.
Then again last year, she asked for help. More cats were in her hood. I was only working part-time, but I scraped the money together to buy another trap and take to her. I told her to call me when she trapped the cats. She didn’t seem to be capable of transporting the cats, or even arranging appointments for them to be fixed. She claimed that she was on hard times, but really, she was preaching to the choir. I was on such hard times that I developed a nutritional disease from such a poor diet. (Problem corrected now. I’m okay.)
I didn’t hear from her. I sent a message to her at one point asking for the trap back, because the mother cat and her five kittens had shown up here. I didn’t hear back from her.
Suddenly a few months ago, she’s begging me for help. At this point I’m pretty annoyed that she’s asking for help, but she’s taking trips and going out to eat with her husband. Apparently there’s money enough, just not for rescue efforts. So I told her to set the trap. And I pointed a few barbs at her for not returning the trap or letting me know that she wasn’t using it.
It got a little testy, this exchange of words. Sometimes her words would be ALL CAPS AND YELLING, and other times she was super-sweet and gracious. It occurred to me that someone who is so overly overwrought about an issue that she could help resolve, but does not, might just have a little mental issue going on.
Sugar kept saying, why can’t she do something? Why can’t she transport? Why can’t she contribute?
See what you think…
- Conversation started November 13, 2011
11/13, 9:29am
Ruth Rawls
Hi Cheryl, My cell phone number is (number removed) so that you know who’s calling you. Today is Sunday and I’ll call you in a bit for directions. Ruth
11/17, 8:34pm
Ruth Rawls
Cheryl, here’s a link to a video that I made that I put on youtube.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhWlHAi_MQk
5/30, 11:28pm
Ruth Rawls
How’s your new job?!
5/30, 11:29pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Its great. I love it there. how have u been?
5/30, 11:30pm
Ruth Rawls
Good, but really busy. If I remember correctly, are you working for a car lot in Savannah?
5/30, 11:30pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
work at jc lewis ford in savannah.
5/30, 11:32pm
Ruth Rawls
That’s what I thought. My son needs a used car. But really cheap. He bought a used car from a private individual in January, and it died a sad death last month. It could have been fixed but it would involve a new motor…
5/30, 11:34pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
thats too bad. send him to jc and ask for me if he wants and i will get him a decent salesman to help him find something he can afford.
5/30, 11:34pm
Ruth Rawls
OK, I will! Thank you!
When are you there?
5/30, 11:35pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
ur welcome. take care and take care of our 4 legged family members!
9/11, 9:19am
Ruth Rawls
Hi Cheryl, I’m looking for employment and would appreciate any leads you have for me. Hope you and your family are well. Ruth
9/11, 12:52pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Ruth, I am sorry to hear that. I know times are bad right now for everyone. I don’t know of anything right now but I will be sure to keep you in mind for sure. I will ask around also for you. Anything I can do for you I will. I really wish I had some leads for you. What type of work are you lookiing for? Have you tried the vet hospitals around the area. I don’t know how far you are willing to travel. I will help all I can. You have been a great friend to me I would like to return the favor if I can. Cheryl
9/11/12, 2:22pm
Ruth Rawls
Cheryl, such nice words for me to read. Thank you so much! I have my degree in business administration, and have worked in a variety of positions, generally falling back on customer service type work. I’ve done office work, like admin asst., and I was a kennel manager for a luxury boarding kennel, and a store manager for a wallpaper store, and a restaurant manager. There are still a few vet hospitals left to contact, and I truly don’t expect any results there. Just knowing that you are keeping me in mind is favor enough. Thanks again! Ruth
7/23/13, 8:12am
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
HI RUTH, IT’S ME, CHERYL. HOW ARE YOU? I AM MESSAGING YOU B/C I AM IN KITTY TROUBLE AGAIN. I REMEMBER YOU TELLING ME IF I HAD ANYMORE KITTIES YOU WOULD HELP. WELL, I HAVE 2 KITTIES THAT I JUST STARTED FEEDING B/C THE KIDS ACROSS THE STREET WERE FEEDING AND THE PARENTS FOUND OUT AND THEY ARE THRETENING TO POISON THEM. AND I DON’T HAVE TO TELL YOU HOW THE NEIGHBORS FEEL. I ONLY HAD BEEN GIVING THEM WATER UNTIL THIS WEEK. THEY COME TO MY HOUSE I THINK B/C THEY SEE MY KITTY IN THE WINDOW NEXT TO THE DOOR. AND YOU KNOW HOW I AM WITH CATS STARVING. IT COMES AT A BAD TIME FOR ME B/C MY HUSBAND IS SICK AGAIN AND IS HAVING 2 SURGURIES WITHIN THE NEXT FEW WEEKS AND WE MAY HAVE TO STAY WITH MY DAUGHTER FOR SEVERAL MONTHS OUT OF STATE. I AM STRESSING BAD B/C I DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY AGAIN TO CARE FOR THEM OR MAY NOT BE HERE ANYWAY. I DO HAVE SOME MONEY THAT MY DAUGHTER GAVE ME THAT I CAN GIVE YOU FOR SPAYING AND NEUTERING AND SHOTS THAT CAN HELP. PLEASE, PLEASE CAN YOU TAKE THEM TO YOUR SANCTUARY IN SC?? I AM AT THE END OF MY ROPE AND I CAN NOT KEEP THEM HERE. IT HAS BEEN 2 YRS SINCE MY LAST CAPTURE OF MY KITTIES. I WONDER HOW THEY ARE? PLEASE LET ME KNOW IT YOU CAN HELP ME TRAP THEM AND TAKE THEM AWAY TO A BETTER PLACE, PLEASE….. THANK YOU, RUTH. CHERYL
7/23, 8:37am
Ruth Rawls
Hi Cheryl, Can you handle the kittens? Do they need to be trapped? I can get a voucher for their spay/neuter & vaccinations, I think, unless the shelter has run out of vouchers for the month. If there are no vouchers at the shelter, I know some other people I can call for help. Stop worrying about them. If those people poison them (and they probably won’t – it’s just a threat), we will prosecute them. Let them know, if you can, that the kittens will be removed from the area. I’ll help you. I have this morning and tomorrow morning off, and also all day Thursday. Thank you for your worry but don’t let it make yourself sick.
7/23, 8:45am
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
RUTH, THANK YOU SO MUCH. IF YOU CAN SUPPLY THE TRAPS THAT WOULD BE GREAT. TOMORROW B/C I HAVE TO TAKE JIM IN FOR PREOP IN SAVANNAH AROUND 10:30 AM AND SHOULD BE BACK AROUND AFTER NOON BUT I CAN CALL YOU WHEN I GET BACK. THURSDAY AND FRIDAY I WON’T BE AROUND EITHER BUT I WILL BE AROUND SAT. JIM HAS TO SEE 2 OTHER DOCTORS THOSE DAYS ALSO AND I DON’T KNOW THE TIME LINE ON THOSE DAYS. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS WILL HELP SINCE I MAY NOT BE AROUND TO EVEN TAKE CARE OF THEM. LET ME KNOW IF 40.00 OR 50.00 WILL HELP FOR THEIR CARE. I WILL LET THE NEIGHBORS KNOW WHAT I AM DOING SO THEY DONT HARM THEM. MY NUMBER HAS CHANGED SINCE LAST WE SPOKE. IT IS (number removed) IF YOU NEED TO CALL ME. IS YOUR NUMBER THE SAME? LET ME KNOW. IT LOOKS LIKE TOMORROW IS THE ONLY GOOD DAY FOR BOTH OF US AND SAT. THAKS AGAIN, RUTH. THANK YOU SO MUCH. CHERYL
7/23, 8:48am
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
OH, I CANT HANDLE THE CATS, I WILL NEED TRAPS, PLEASE. THANKS.
7/23, 8:54am
Ruth Rawls
My phone number is the same. I’ll update your number in my cell phone. The vouchers cover the surgery, leukemia testing, rabies and FVRCP vaccinations. You can have them microchipped for an additional $8, which I have been doing, in case the kittens can be tamed and rehomed. So it you have 2 kittens & can donate $16 for the cost of the microchipping, that would be great. I have been getting food donations from Maranatha Farm who has access to a pet food bank, so I don’t need food. The lady at Maranatha said to call her anytime I need food. Saturday might not work for me b/c I work from 8-1. I’d only be available in the afternoon.
7/23, 8:56am
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
I AM AVAILABLE ALL DAY SAT JUST LET ME KNOW. ONE OF THE CATS IS A KITTEN I THINK HE OR SHE IS SMALL, TINY. THE OTHER IS AN ADULT CAT BUT THEY HANGE TOGETHER. IS THAT OK? LET ME KNOW IF TOMORROW IS GOOD FOR YOU IN THE AFTERNOON ALSO. THANKS, CHERYL
7/23, 9:14am
Ruth Rawls
Tomorrow (Wed 7/24) I work 2-9 PM. Thursday I am off. Friday I work 10-4 and Sat 8AM to 1PM. I’ll have to get some traps. I’ve loaned all mine out.
7/23, 9:29am
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
MAYBE SAT. IS THE ONLY GOOD DAY. I MAY NOT BE HOME UNTIL NOON TOMORROW,WED. I CAN CALL YOU WHEN I GET HOME BUT YOU HAVE TO BE AT WORK BY 2 SO IF SAT. IS BETTER AFTER 1PM THEN ITS OK I GUESS. MAYBE BY THEN YOU CAN GET THE TRAPS.
THURSDAY AND FRIDAY WE WILL BE IN AND OUT OF DR’S OFFICE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TIME I WILL BE HOME. ITS HARD TO SAY.
YOU CAN LEAVE THE TRAPS ON THE FRONT PORCH CHAIRS TOMORROW IF YOU GET THEM. IF NOT SAT. WILL BE OK.
OR YOU CAN LEAVE THE TRAPS ANY DAY YOU ARE OFF ON THE FRONT PORCH CHAIRS IF WE ARE NOT AT HOME. THANKS.
7/23, 9:32am
Ruth Rawls
I’ll make a plan & then I’ll let you know. What’s going on with Jim?
7/23, 9:35am
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
THANKS RUTH. JIM IS HAVING KIDNEY PROBLEMS FROM THE SURGERY HE HAD 2 YRS AGO AND ALSO THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON THAT THE DR. WANTS TO CHECK OUT. WE DONT KNOW YET. HOPING IT IS NOT SERIOUS BUT I AM STRESESING ABOUT IT AND SO IS HE. THANKS FOR ASKING.I WILL WAIT FOR YOUR CALL. THANKS.
7/23, 9:36am
Ruth Rawls
Can you take your cats and dog if you go to your daughter’s?
I just left a message for the lady who borrowed my traps. She is a school teacher and probably won’t get the message until tonight.
7/23, 9:46am
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
YES, I CAN TAKE MY CAT AND DOG WITH ME. IT WILL BE TOUGH FOR A LITTLE WHILE SINCE SHE HAS 2 DOGS AND A CAT OF HER OWN BUT WE WILL WORK IT OUT IF WE HAVE TO GO. WE WONT HAVE A CHOICE. IT MAY ONLY BE FOR 2 OR 3 MONTHS. DONT KNOW YET. ITS TOO SOON TO SPECULATE.
OK ABOUT THE TRAPS. JUST GIVE ME A CALL OR MESSAGE ME. THANKS.
7/26, 10:49pm
Ruth Rawls
I have a new trap. I can bring to you on Monday afternoon after I get off work at 3:30PM. Going to bed now. Chat more later.
7/26, 10:52pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
ok, see u then,,,thx.
7/29, 8:19pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Hi Ruth, I hope I didn’t get my days mixed up. I thought you were coming today after work. It’s ok. Just want to make sure you are ok. Let me know when you can come. If I’m not here my husband will be. Text me or message me here on fb. Thanks. I hope everything is ok. Cheryl
7/29, 8:57pm
Ruth Rawls
Hi Cheryl, FB is not showing your entire message. I sent you a text message this afternoon to say that I have to postpone for one week. Perhaps you did not get it. I’m sorry for the delay.
This area is having terrible phone problems, both land and cell.
Perhaps because of all the storms. Leslie’s house phone has not worked in two (three?) days. There was a lightning strike right by his house on Saturday during a horrific storm.
It’s thundering now.
7/29, 9:03pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Sorry I never received that message, Ruth. Anyway, it’s ok. Next week is ok, just let me know. I tried earlier to send you a text message by cell and it wouldn’t go thru. about an hr ago. I will let u go now. thanks. we are getting some lightning and thunder right now too. bye.
Next week Jim is going in for surgery on Tuesday Aug. 6th and will be out on Wed. Aug 7th. I won’t be around Monday but Jim will be home. Let me know, I’m sure we can work something out. bye.
7/29, 9:09pm
Ruth Rawls
I checked to see that the text actually went through, and it appears that it did. Perhaps you will get it yet! I think that next Tuesday morning will be better for me. My schedule has changed slightly for next week so Tuesday morning looks the best for me to drop off the trap. If you decide to get a trap for yourself, you can find one at Home Depot, or sometimes the local shelter will loan one with a deposit.
7/29, 9:10pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
We will be home afternoon sometime on Wed. after I pick Jim up from hospital if that is better than Monday. Or you could just leave it on the front porch.
7/29, 9:18pm
Ruth Rawls
Unfortunately Monday won’t work for me. I’ll leave it on the porch regardless, and I’ll send you a text to let you know it’s there. Raining now. I’m starting to mildew.
7/29, 10:22pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Hi, I shut down my computer and cells, the storm was bad…Just stopped a few minutes ago. My dog was freaking but finally got her calmed down now. Yes it would be fine to just leave it on the porch. One of us will be there. Thank you so much.
7/29, 10:24pm
Ruth Rawls
Still storming here. I’m working on a logo for a business card to attach to the trap to identify it with contact information. Hope your medical concerns are resolved soon. Take care!
7/29, 10:25pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Ok. Thanks and you take care in this storm too.
9/16, 5:09pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
HI RUTH, HOW ARE YOU? SORRY IT IS TAKING ME SO LONG TO TRAP THE CATS. WE WERE AWAY FOR OVER A WEEK ALSO. I ALSO TRAPPED MY NEIGHBOR’S CAT TWICE. THEY MOVED IN ACROSS THE ST. FROM ME A FEW MONTHSF AGO AND ARE LETTING THEIR CAT OUTSIDE NOW AND IT LOOKS EXACTLY LIKE THE 2 I AM TRYING TO TRAP. I THINK I CAN TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THEM NOW. WHAT IS YOUR SCHEDULE THIS WEEK IF I SHOULD TRAP ONE OF THEM THIS WEEK? THE ONE THAT I WANT TO TRAP, HE HAS BEEN AROUND FOR AWHILE. HE CAME TO MY DOOR THE VERY NIGHT YOU PICKED UP MY MOMMY KITTY THAT I TRAPPED 2 YRS AGO AT THANKS GIVING TIME. I SAW HIM A FEW TIMES AFTER THAT THEN NOTHING FOR QUITE SOMETIME. HERE AND THERE BUT NEVER AT MY HOUSE. I REMEMBER HIM B/C HE HAS AN INJURY OR SOMETHING AT THE CORNER OF HIS EYE. I HOPE HE IS NOT BLINDED IN THAT EYE. ANYWAY THE OTHER ONE IS YOUNGER AND LOOKS LIKE HIM IN COLOR BUT HAS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL SKY BLUE EYES. WELL LET ME KNOW. OK? YOU CAN TEXT ME IF YOU WANT ALSO. THANKS.
9/16, 5:13pm
Ruth Rawls
I am available all mornings. I have to be at work – finally a job! – either at 10AM or noon. I just left 4 male cattens at Hardeeville Vet Clinic today for surgery. They are from the orignal bottlefed litter that I got back in April. Long story. The Hardeeville Vet Clinic will do a male surgery for me cheaper than the Spay/Neuter clinic so YAY! Let me know when to pick up. I’ll turn up the ringer on my cell phone.
9/16, 5:15pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
SO U ARE AVAILABLE ALL MORNING? ALL THIS WEEK?
IM GLAD YOU HAVE A JOB NOW. WHEN DO YOU GO INOT WORK?
INTO I MEAN.
9/16, 5:16pm
Ruth Rawls
Mornings I’m available. I might have to come super early like 8. I have to be at work at 10 or noon.
9/16, 5:17pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
- OK. I WILL LET YOU KNOW. ALSO DOES IT COST 17.00 PER CAT TO SPAY/NEUTER AND SHOTS?
10/28/14, 12:59pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Hi Ruth! How have you been? Havent talked to you in awhile. Well I have managed to do it again. I have a Mommy, Daddy and 6 month old I think son. I wanted to get them spayed and neutered and keep them here. The 6 mo. old one she had while we were away in the spring. didn’t know she was pregnant. Didn’t see her for awhile but then she showed up several months ago and looked like pregnant again. She had 3 this time. She brought them to our house 2 wks ago to eat. I am guessing they are at least 8 wks old. She actually nurses them right on our front porch. I have tried to catch her in the past and kept catching the neighbors cat across the st. My husband is on me to get this taken care of before they have more babies or someone says something since they are in the front of my house. I am still having trouble and cant function making these decisions. I am at whits end. I am sick about this. The kittens are a little squeamish near me. I am so upset. I need help desperately. No help from anyone else. They only want to put them down. I have one trap that you lent to me last yr. I have no place to keep them once I trap them if I do. I am also having trouble doing this whole thing by myself. Please help. cant sleep cant eat. Just worry.
10/28, 1:11pm
Ruth Rawls
Can you handle any of them?
10/28, 1:20pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
No they run to their mom. They are little still and the cutest looking kittens.
10/28, 1:20pm
Ruth Rawls
Set the trap, and when you catch someone, call me.
10/28, 1:21pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
- I will let you know. thanks.
is your # still (number removed)?
10/28, 1:26pm
Ruth Rawls
I have one here that I can’t catch, either. I keep catching my own cats. I understand that you feel responsible, and that your husband is not supporting you, but just keep calm and stop worrying and do the best you can. No one needs to give you any criticism if they are not helping. This is not your problem but you have chosen to take action and you are to be commended. I really have needed my trap back, and have asked you for it in the past but have not gotten a response, but I’m not being critical – I know that you are doing the best you can. Yes, that’s the right number.
10/28, 1:26pm
Ruth Rawls
If they don’t go in the trap, there are really very few options.
10/28, 1:32pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Im am sorry but I didn’t get any messages from you about the trap. none on my cell and none here on fb. I haven’t talked to you in person so when did you ask for it back. Sorry. I thought you would call me when you needed it back but I didn’t hear from you and I just kept forgetting. its in my garage. out of sight out of mind. maybe you have an old cell number. again sorry.
10/28, 1:39pm
Ruth Rawls
I mentioned it once in a conversation. It looked like you weren’t using it even though you sounded desperate to get it in the first place. I’m not mad, I’m just not understanding why you needed it so badly but after I drove it over to your house, I never heard from you saying that you had trapped a cat. I thought that I was the only one helping you, and I didn’t know what was going on. I actually went to Home Depot and bought that trap just to bring to you. I had loaned out my other traps and have not gotten them back. I have the same cell, and likewise have not heard from you that you didn’t need the trap. Do you want to use the trap with this latest batch? Just tell me what you want to do.
10/28, 1:49pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
I tried to catch that cat when you offered the trap to me. I told you that I kept trapping the neighbors cat. You weren’t sure of your schedule at the time and we couldn’t settle on a time and you said you didn’t have any place to keep the cats either for me. I told you I was leaving to go away a yr ago this month. family emergency in NJ. I had someone coming to feed my cat inside and she also put food outside. I was gone for some time. When I got back the neighbor had moved and took her cat with her. Problem solved. I only had the one daddy cat then. Since this past spring I have the mommy cat and one 6 mo. old kitty of hers she had when we were away in June. Have been trying to catch them since July but no luck. Only catching the other neighbors black cat they keep outside now. Now mommy cat has had another litter. I need to catch them all and neuter and spay. Would like to get homes for the kittens if possible. I apologize about the trap but I don’t remember you asking for the trap back. I don’t remember the conversation after at all. we didn’t speak again until now. again I am sorry for the miscommunication.
10/28, 2:10pm
Ruth Rawls
I’m looking back through the messages and I see where I gave you my schedule, and told you that I was only available during morning times b/c I have to go to work at 10AM or noon. This is still true. I get my schedule on the Friday or Saturday before it starts the following Monday. I do not see where I told you that I didn’t have a place to keep the cats. I also do not see where you told me that you were leaving to go away a year ago this month on a family emergency. But that doesn’t matter. I have been the only person who has aided you. I didn’t create the situation, but I’ve tried to help you resolve it. I have never turned you down. The issue now is to set the trap EVERY DAY. Once you have trapped the one you want, call me, and I’ll figure something out.
10/28, 2:18pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
ok sounds good to me. I know you have helped me in the past and it is appreciated. I did tell you I was leaving to go away and that is when I didn’t hear from you again. I thought you just got angry at that time when you didn’t respond but I had to leave. I have not talked to you since that last message. I did try to trap that cat but no luck before I had left. .It doesn’t matter now only matters that I take care of this issue now. we could go round and round. again I appreciate your help and again I am sorry. I will let you know when I trap if I can trap. thanks again Ruth.
10/28, 2:20pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
I think I know what the problem was about all of this. You guys were having a bad storm at the time we were communicating back and forth and we both had trouble with the cell phones and messages if you go back and read some of the fb messages. maybe that’s what happened.
you will also see where I told you about me being away in the fb messages.
10/28, 4:30pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
You know what? I have thought about this and you can come and get your trap any time after tomorrow. I will figure something out. I may let the problem grow until the health dept. steps in and puts them all down. I don’t have any other options. Thanks anyway.
10/28, 11:10pm
Cheryl Wescoat Melendez Rundio
Btw after tomorrow means Thursday. Want to make that clear. Wouldnt want you to make a trip here tomorrow for nothing.
7:42pm
Ruth Rawls
I will not be able to pick up the trap. If you would like to return it to me, you may, or you can keep it to use or to donate.
Seen 7:44pm
I donated the trap to her because she posted a FB status that I was stupid and that I had lied. Why would you call someone stupid in a public forum when the “stupid” person has access to it? Yes, after I sent a message that I would not be going to her house again to pick up the trap, I unfriended her. Life is too short. Game over.
I might be a slow learner, but I’m not stupid. And the part about asking me if my number is still the same? My number is on a laminated tag attached to the trap.