This Is The Year

2015 was an amazing year. There were undreamable moments that came true. There were unbelievable people that emerged. There were worries and issues. 

This year might just explode. In a good way. I hope. 


Once, when I was a little girl, my mother was talking to her friend about learning more about her family. Like making a family tree, back when it was hard, and there weren’t many resources. 

“Oh, you don’t want to do that,” her friend said. “You might not like what you find.” Because the liking was an important part of the search. 

Someone she knew had done such a thing, and they were changed forever. They found that they were mixed race. She went on to tell us that when she and some other ladies would work a blood drive (which was in another state but could have been anywhere), they marked the collection vials with “W” or “Co”. Because we don’t want a blood transfusion of the wrong blood when we are bleeding to death. Which today reminds me of the old saying that one drop of colored blood means that you are colored. 

I’m not even going to rant about that and use up valuable energy that could go towards good. 


Y’all know that Sugar took an autosomal DNA test. The day came that the test confirmed what we had already learned from other distant cousins. 

It turns out that none of the black cousins had ever met the white cousins, at least not since 1881. On December 26, 2015, we made history. 


Standing: Elizabeth Lawton Hromika and Leslie Lawton Bateson. Seated: Francine Brown.

A big part of this meeting is the fact that conversations were started and maintained. Sometimes one race won’t talk to another race, even online which is where the conversations start, once race is revealed. 

Francine’s great-nephew is the one who took the DNA test, and when he reached out, people responded. The connections got bigger and bigger. 

So people? Start the conversation. Go make some history.  

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2 Responses to “This Is The Year”

  1. Libby Lawton Hromika Says:

    I fundamentally believe that everyone has the right to know who they are. I also believe we cannot rewrite history……it simply is what it is. I believe no one is greater or less than I am. Strangely, with those liberal-seeming qualities, I am a conservative Christian Republican. My home is a blessing, one I love to share with family and friends. Consequently, I will open wide the doors of my home and heart to our family, whoever they may be. Christ did no less for me. I look forward to the 2016 reunion, in hopes that we can break down the barriers of race in our family, accepting what is and realizing we are all alike in more ways than not. Thank you, Ruth, for your part in leading the way to what I believe will be an epic year for our family.

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  2. Aquila Says:

    I have to agree that we all have the right to know who our ancestors were and where they, and we, came from. We forget in this very politically correct time that attitudes and beliefs were significantly different back in the earlier times in this country. While the ownership of slaves is nothing to be proud of, we have to remember that for those who did own slaves, they found the idea and practice acceptable, and in their time it was. If one thinks about it the practice of slavery is extremely old. Who is to say that a distant relative might well have been a slave in ancient Rome, or almost anywhere in Europe depending on the times. We need to stop being so terribly self-righteous about slavery and having ancestors who owned slaves. The practice is still going on in many places in the world yet today. There were also people who were indentured who were white who had a far worse time than the black slaves, the only difference being the indentured were released eventually where the slaves were not. The historical context is important and it would be well if instead of getting all bent out of shape because you turn up a slave owner or former slave in your ancestry to remember that those people lived in a different society, with different morals and in the end they were all just human.

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